Self-insight, Self-improvement, Self-awareness…Self-sabotage?

Self-care: Reduce mental fear and anxiety by creating more time for harmony and balance.

Self-care: Reduce mental fear and anxiety by creating more time for harmony and balance.

CRUSH THE COMPETITIVE INNER VOICE

Is this you? In the back of your mind you hear a voice saying:

The beginning of the new year is considered to be an excellent time for creating new routines, implementing healthy habits and creating action plans for the goals you want to accomplish in the new year. (I can hear a record needle screeching to a halt as I write this).

But wait!

Did I hear you correctly? You don’t have any concrete goals or an action plan in place and you feel overwhelmed by thought of taking action?  Or you feel frustrated or stuck by the thought of trying to achieve all the goals and changes that you want to implement this year? 

What’s my advice? Don’t freak out but do turn off the voice of the inner critic. I love this simple guide to optimal wellness by Deepak Chopra: 5 Steps for Creating Healthy Habits. This post outlines simple strategies to start your wellness plan.

CREATE A REASONABLE TIME FRAME TO ACHIEVE GOALS

Attempting a total make-over in the first month of the new year is just as much of an act of self-sabotage as doing nothing at all; in fact most people are better off making room to achieve some smaller more manageable goals in addition to allowing for more time to achieve larger goals. Here is an interesting post that debunks the 21 days to form a new habit myth: How Long It Takes To Form a New Habit. I’m adding this post as a gentle reminder that sometimes our goals for the new year have the addition of an unreasonable timeline. Is it possible that loving yourself, flaws and all, is the first necessary shift to make in 2015?

LOOK FOR INSPIRATION AND BEAUTY IN YOUR IMMEDIATE ENVIRONMENT

It's ok to be exactly where you are. Master the fine art of contentment.

It’s ok to be exactly where you are. Master the fine art of contentment.

Keep in mind that self-care is not a competition. If you feel shut down by the thought of making any changes or overwhelmed by all the changes that you feel that you need to make it might be time to take steps to reprogram your own mind to be ok with where you are in your life.

How can you be happy with your life just as it is? How can you take a more playful and optimistic approach to the new year? How can you be more care-free, light-hearted, and freedom-loving in the choices that you make?

Leave some room to be pleasantly surprised, you don’t need to map out every detail to begin to make some changes.

If you are looking for some playful inspiration, check out some of the suggestions for being a happier person in the post, 43 Simple Ways to Make Yourself Happy by Gina Vaynshteyn over at Hello Giggles.

ENJOY SIMPLE PLEASURES

This is my top 10 list for navigating the new year simply and healthfully:

1 Focus on the positive (Recently, a colleague posted some ideas about the new year’s tradition of keeping a gratitude jar filled with whatever you feel grateful for each day. At the end of the year, you will have lots of positive memories to jump start the new year).

2 Turn off the voice of the inner critic

3 Master the basics (i.e. If you are a beginner, don’t start at an intermediate or advanced level.)

4 Ground and center your energy (Allow yourself to be bored. Turn off your cell phone! Silence will help you with this one.)

5 Eat food that you lovingly prepare or arrange in your own kitchen (Avoid eating out, eating out of a box or eating energy bars/supplements for a week and reach for real food. If you are not a cook there is no shame in keeping it simple: eat apples and peanut butter, oatmeal with apples and butter, cottage cheese and tomatoes, or other whole foods that are simple to prepare.)

6 Take daily walks in nature (in your neighborhood, around the block, on your lunch break from work)

7 Breathe fresh air deeply into your lungs

8 Get a little sun as it makes itself visible in the sky

9 Make time for friends and family that have your best interest at heart

10 Do something you love doing every day (Feeling stuck? Look at your book shelf, record collection, old letters, old journals, ask your friends or family to tell you why they love you.)

What baby steps are you going to take in the coming months that will simply make you happier? Please share strategies in the comments section. We can help and learn from each other!